the comparison

Recently a friend of mine vocally declared in a group setting, directed at me, an emotive statement:

"you have the perfect life"

Hmmmmmm I thought to myself. I gave a mystified smile and then analyzed their comment best I could.

Were they mad?

Were the jealous?

Were they happy for me?

Just what was her intention for such a comment?

The fact of the matter is we judge. We judge and compare ourselves to people all the time. Why? I don't know. We're silly humans that don't know how to control ourselves and we waste our time doing stupid things! But I feel pretty safe to say, WE ALL DO IT!

I wanted to laugh and explain my so called "perfect life" to my audience after the uttered judgement. Because by their remark they were only looking on the visible outside.

Isn't that how we all compare though?

We choose to take bits and pieces of people's lives. When in actuality we may not really know what goes on in someone's life. We think they might have this pretty packaged gift, but we don't know the entirety of what is in the box!

I wanted to ask my friend what her definition of perfection was...because apparently she wasn't thinking of my enduring heartache of infertility. She wasn't thinking of my weaknesses and the things I struggle with or the insecurities I have. I don't know if she was considering some of these things that are part of my life when she categorized me into

"the perfect life"

stereotype.

I'm not sure what was concocted in her mind of a perfect life, but I guarantee it was probably only superficial.

Then I read this blog post my sister had linked on her blog. It's SO GOOD. Take the time to read it. I promise you'll be grateful!

We need to stop comparing. Stop judging.

Or if we do it, do it to better ourselves!

What a brilliant idea. ☺

The grass ISN'T always greener on the other side. Guaranteed.