I haven't been working in my profession (RN) for a year and a half now. It's been AWESOME.
At first it was weird and I missed it because I have always worked
(since I was 15 years old).
Actually, let me re-phrase that...I am STILL working!!
I've just switched fields:
My new job happens to be the hardest job I've ever had as MOTHER,
exploring green pastures and walking through clover fields...
so I'm currently on hold (for an undetermined amount of time) in the nursing field!
There are some things I do miss:
friends
the social aspect
holding and loving the sweet babies (NICU and Well baby)
getting a paycheck
having an outlet
girl talk
treats all night...
but I don't miss leaving my precious boys. I hated having to say good-bye 3-4 times a night so I could work the graveyard shift (Landon and I wanted one of us at home with Tanner while the other worked), and then coming home in the early hours of the morning and forcing myself to stay awake for another 12 hours so I could "pretend to be a good mom."
Graveyard shifts and motherhood don't jive.
I mentioned I missed the girl talk at night. Graveyards give more opportunities to shoot the breeze with co-workers than a day shift does...so there were always runs for take-out food, occasional movies, yummy treats, lots of DP to help keep us awake, and usually bashing of husbands in our late night gossip sessions.
BUT.
I never participated in those bashing sessions.
EVER.
Some of the nurses I worked with were horrible. They were horrible wives, had horribles husbands, and told horrible stories. I hated when those conversations came up because I felt so uncomfortable. I didn't want to participate...and furthermore,
I COULDN'T.
I had no bones to throw to those salivating dogs!
You know...once someone starts they each want the next person to jump in and tell how bad they have it as well.
Who could top the other with how bad their marriage was.
Who got the most sympathy votes.
It was pathetic.
I would just sit there and listen with absolutely no reply. OR. If I could (we are supposed to stay in the room with the babies, so I couldn't just get up and leave my patients) I would leave.
Why wouldn't I participate you might ask?
(but that shouldn't even be a question)
1. Because I don't believe in publicly bashing on my husband! If I have a problem with him, that is OUR problem. I'm not a hugely private person (obviously, my blog isn't private), but some things need to be kept in and only between a husband and wife.
I respect my husband enough to keep whatever issues we have, private.
2. Because I have nothing awful to say about my husband anyways!
I can't complain that he doesn't do the laundry-because he does.
I can't whine about how he cheats on me-because he doesn't.
I can't cry about how he yells and calls me names-because he doesn't.
I can't argue about his laziness-because he isn't.
I can't yell that he never brings me flowers-because he DOES...
every month!I know my husband is not perfect...but at least he is trying.
Thank you babe.
I love you!
15 comments:
Late night poster.. just like me! :) I love the surprise of flowers... our lives have been insane lately, but I can't wait until we can get back to each other....:) Great post.
What an awesome post! I agree I hate it when women start bashing their husbands. I have no input or negative to say it only increases my love and appreciation for the husband I have!! You get flowers each month you are a lucky girl that is awesome!! We do have the hardest job ever don't we it never stops. But its the best thats for sure. Have a great weekend!
OHHHHH how sweet. What an awesome guy! And you guys are so cute together.
Amen Jill I remember this too with the salon business. EVERYONE would BASH each other. After 7yrs in the business I felt myself getting sucked into it. It was sad I didn't like it, it made me feel yucky inside. It was the only was I was accepted along with the EXPENSIVE lifestyle I could NOT afford but tried to. HA. Although nursing is an admirable job a mother is more important. It affects generations. Besides who wouldn't want to be home with a little boy as edible as yours. He is DELICIOUS!
Thanks for your comment! I love how tanner said his prayer in primary. My boys still say "Fader" too!
I love this post. I hate when other people bash on their hubbies. I don't need to hear about it. There are times when I miss working and times where I'm so grateful I don't have to. Being a Mom is the best!
I've never got the whole husband bashing thing. I want to know why they are married to the guy if they have all that bad stuff to say about him. I guess we're just lucky because we have great husbands!
Your blog is SO refreshing to read. This post rocks. You and Landon are such a great couple and what a stud to give you roses EVERY MONTH!!! I love how true to life your blog is you don't pretend that your life and everything in it is absolutely perfect even if at times it can feel dang close! I strongly dislike gossip of any sort especially bashing family members and more esp. a spouse--like you said that is to be kept b/w husband & wife. It bugs me when women also brag (lie) that their lives and husbands and children are PERFECT and above anyone else's--there really is no such thing....thanks for this great post....you are a lucky girl to get a great man like Landon. You two are great together.
I don't question for a moment that you don't participate in such conversations. You are WAY better than that. Great post with great reminders for me. You and Landon are such a great couple. Then throw Tanner in and you've got one of the sweetest families ever. LUCKY!!! :)
Ohhh...I would LOVE to walk away from the nursing prof! I probably never will, but one can dream! Good to be checking on you again! Changed my address...trying to make it more personal:
mcallistermoments.blogspot.com Talk soon!
Great post! It is easy to fall in the man-bashing trap. Thanks for sticking up for great hubbies and great marriages everywhere!
That is so sweet! And good for you! It's so easy to get sucked in to complaining but it doesn't do anybody any good. Way to stick up for your man!
Great post! I agree 100%. I think that gossip harbors more bad feelings. The more you say it out loud the more you believe it and that can never be good in a marriage.
First--i bet your were an AWESOME NICU nurses--those babies were so lucky. I can't even imagine trying to be a mom after being up all night--you're amazing. And that is sooo sweet all the stuff you said about your hubby. GREAT perspective, and a good reminder! My hubby and I ALWAYS tease each other, so I worry that may come off as me being mean when I tease him, but I really know how lucky I am. And you get flowers every month? That's soooo cool! =)
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